By DAVID TEPERA | Posted: Wednesday, July 29, 2015
If you’ve ever played sports or competed in something, besides winning, you’ve experienced the feeling of losing. None of us like losing, but it’s part of life’s lessons that’s important to learn, especially for children.
As parents, it’s difficult watching our kids lose competition that’s clearly important to them at that time.
My daughter Daylyn just went through a tearful loss of trying to win a position for a club volleyball team. There were hundreds of skilled players competing for only a few positions. She and many other girls were devastated after being cut from the team.
This was a moment in which parenting played an important role. We discussed every detail of where she gave full effort, and her possible weaknesses.
After going through a brief crying session and realizing there is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about, we put to together a new plan to tryout for one last team.
First, I worked on her confidence, good sportsmanship and understanding to turn this into a positive learning experience. Then, we targeted weak skills to rebuild courage and determination.
On the day of tryouts, Daylyn walked in ready to own and conquer the practice. During the car ride, she visualized already winning a position. My little girl took no prisoners, and played at a whole new level.
So you know, she did make the team, but the lessons learned in losing out-weighed any victory she’s ever had.
To be a champion, you must learn from losing.