By DAVID TEPERA | Posted: Tuesday, August 30, 2016
As parents, one of the best lessons we can teach our children is to get back up after being knocked down. These lessons will be needed throughout their whole lives.
For example, when I was a youth soccer coach, it was countless how many times parents would run to their kid’s rescue after they fell from being tripped. The fallen kid would look for their parents then start crying.
Now wait a moment and keep reading before you get mad at me. There is a difference between being hurt and being injured.
At the beginning of each season, I would tell the parents that if your kid falls, I’m going to yell at them to get up and get back in the game. I wouldn’t give them an opportunity to cry or have their parent over-pamper them.
Also, once the kid was up and running, I would yell encouraging words letting them know how proud I was of their effort. Those kids always received extra high-fives from me.
It was amazing to watch a young kid learn to self-power and transform into a determined athlete.
The second part of this lesson is I never allowed my kids to quit any sport or activity either. It didn’t matter how much they weren’t enjoying it. I told them to finish the season, and if they never wanted to play again, then don’t.
Besides, my kids typically would end up liking that sport anyway. They just had a discouraging game or practice during a particular week.
Once we teach our kids to quit, quitting becomes a way of life. Believe me, my kids have deleted the “quit” word from their vocabulary.
I know a family whose parents came to their son’s rescue in every situation possible, not just sports. Their son never learned to get back up or problem-solve. They allowed him to quit every activity he was involved in. Now he’s in high school and has no ambition because quitting comes too easy.
Throughout our whole lives, we will be in situations that require us to find courage to never give up.
We’ll encounter divorce, unemployment, life-threatening diseases, death of love ones and so on.
Yes, you will fail, you’ll get hurt, and you’ll lose. But, you’ll also come from behind to win, cross the finish line and fight your way back in life.
You’ll always find a way to land back on your feet because quitting was never an option.