Doing for others is the greatest reward

by David Tepera, June 28, 2017

I believe one phrase most of us have heard before is, “do things for others and expect nothing in return, and you’ll find the greatest reward.”

I’ve instilled this philosophy in my children their whole lives. I am proud to say that they’ve done a lot of good deeds for others throughout their young lives.

I’m sure there are many of you who do this on a daily basis. This could be from your current occupation, volunteering or just by helping others when the time is needed. I applaud your efforts, and the world is better because of you.

Now, I typically don’t self-promote in my articles, but today, I feel the need to share with you.

I’ve had many emails from readers asking if I’ve published a book. I’m overwhelmed to let you know, that my first book “Keep Moving and Improving” came out a few months ago.

One of the biggest reasons my book is gaining attention is because of the fact that 50 percent of the royalties go to The PTSD Foundation of America and Camp Hope in Houston.

Some of you know, and many do not, but I lost my first-born son Dustin at the age of 23 to complications of PTSD when he returned from war in 2012.

Dustin loved serving his country and the U.S. Army was good to him. It took me a few years to find a way to honor his name, so my book is dedicated to Army Specialist Dustin Ray Tepera.

You can order the book on Amazon or Barnes and Noble. Just type in the title and my name.

Today, I’m reaching out for you to find a way to help and serve others. Your community is in need, and you can make a difference. I promise, you’ll get hooked because it’s the most wonderful feeling to experience.

My mom, Eileen Tepera, has been volunteering at Mainland Hospital for years. She looks forward to each week helping others.

Also, I tip my hat to all you youth coaches. This typically requires a lot of your personal time after a hard days work. You make the biggest impact on kids if they want to continue playing that sport or not.

To borrow a quote I once read, “Never stop doing things for others. Sometimes, those little things occupy the biggest part of their heart.”

Building Confidence is Key

by David Tepera, June 22, 2017

On average, about 6 million people a year will break a bone. In case you didn’t know, it typically takes six to 10 weeks for broken bones to heal. A hard callus will form around the fracture creating a stronger bone than before.

I feel broken bones can be a reflection of our lives. If you’re out in this world giving your best, then you’ll encounter different levels of adversity and tragedy.

Yes, negative situations will hurt and try to break you down, but you must bounce back stronger than before.

As most of us know, just like broken bones, a broken heart will also take time to heal. We will all face the loss of a loved one, but time will mend the temporary hurt. Doctors call this stress-cardiomyopathy.

Also, we must develop thicker skin. There might be someone or others in your life who constantly try to verbally beat you down.

The best way to develop thick skin is by building confidence. Negative comments are powerless when your confidence level is high because you feel good about your natural ability.

Recognize others are weak and not happy with their own lives when they put others down.

Really, as far as sports, referees have the thickest skin imaginable. Think about it, every call they make, half the people in the stands don’t like it.

It’s kind of like being president of the United States, no matter who you are, half the country won’t like you.

Recently, a good friend of mine was thrown into an unexpected divorce. She went into depression for a few days, then decided to switch the situation to life altering. She hired a personal trainer who could also help with diet and has transformed her body into a competitive athlete. My friend is now competing in national bikini contests.

Now, I’m not telling you to take your life to an extreme level of fitness, but I am telling you to attack this world with full effort.

It’s time to stop wishing and start doing. Wake up with determination and go to bed with satisfaction.

Our bodies have an amazing process of healing itself, so no matter what situation your dealing with, make today stronger than yesterday.

Who makes you better?

By David Tepera, June 17, 2017

Almost two months ago, a friend of mine, named Tina, was contemplating whether to compete in her first women’s figure contest. After a brief discussion, we agreed for me to help her with training and diet to see how her body would respond.

To my surprise, Tina’s work ethic was top-notch. She gave 100 percent effort and detail to each weight lifting session, along with dieting. So, it was no surprise, Tina was on track to be in competition condition within deadline.

Because of Tina’s dedication, I decided to join her and become training partners during weight lifting sessions because I, too, am competing in the same show.

I’ve trained hundreds of people, but this was the first time someone helped me reach another level. Tina and I both agree, we both make each other better when it comes to elite training.

Now, of course, this made me think about all areas of life for each of us. Who in your life makes you better? It could be a coach, supervisor, pastor, friend or spouse.

My dad, who was a high school football coach for 30-plus years, said it best. He told me that his coaching style was to help players to become successful in life. I’ve had the pleasure of many of his former players telling me that exact message.

I truly believe for partners and spouses to reach ultimate success, you must support and push each other through adversity with passion.

Never settle for the status quo. Remember, this world is constantly changing, so failures and successes are up to you.

Think about your involvement in others’ lives. Do you make their lives better or not? Are you considered needy or supportive?

I’m sure most of us know people who only want partners to pamper them, but bring nothing to the table themselves. Keep in mind, relationships are partnerships, not one-sided.

Besides constantly loving and inspiring my children, I have the humbling platform of being a columnist and motivational speaker to help countless people.

So now, it’s time to step up our game in life. Be the person you want others to be, and let’s make each other’s lives better.

Create your own destiny

By David Tepera, June 14, 2017

In 1987, I was introduced to a new philosophy of thinking by Grandmaster Al Garza. This philosophy has been used by many people to help transfer their lives. Typically, our biggest challenges in life are within ourselves, so I want to share this with you.

There are five components: thoughts, actions, habits, character, destiny.

What are your constant daily thoughts? What do you think about the most? If these thoughts are negative, then your actions will become them, plus you’re probably hanging out with those types of people.

You must recognize when negative thoughts are attacking your mind, and learn to flip them into positive ones. Find the beauty in every situation to develop a peace of mind.

You see, your thoughts will become your actions. When you judge situations and people with an open heart, then you’ll treat others with kindness and respect. When you think of healthy foods and exercise, then your body will respond at its best.

How many of you hit the local bar after work instead of going to the gym? How many of you have the need to smoke tobacco after each meal?

Why not flip your actions to improve your life?

Once you’re able to create positive actions on a daily basis, they will develop into habits.

Our habits are really a reflection of our lifestyle. Why be destructive to ourselves? Believe me, once you start developing a positive mind and making better choices, then your quality of life will become amazing.

These habits will determine your character. People see you as the person you portray. Not only others, but how do you treat yourself?

I’ve made countless mistakes throughout life, but I don’t beat myself up over it anymore. I let it go and make today better than yesterday.

My character became more important because not only did I want others to respect me, but I needed to be happy with myself. I love the man I’ve become, and you’ll learn to love yourself, too.

Remember, your character will determine your destiny. The beauty is you can start a new destiny today. Don’t worry what happened yesterday because today is the beginning of the new you.

You can change the world

By David Tepera, June 7, 2017

Like all seniors this year, my son Dylan graduated high school. Many parents cried at the ceremony because it means their childhood is over. All the years of recitals, sports, activities and etc. are over.

Of course, not every child had great experiences while growing up in public schools. Maybe you felt like an outsider and different from the stereotypical normal popular kids.

Well guess what? That’s the cool part of the adult world. We do not need the ‘Same ol- same-ol.’ This is an exciting time for you because you should never want to be normal.

My kids and I applaud those children who chose to dress differently and live a different way of life, which gave them confidence. However, this pertains to those who treated others with kindness and respect.

Your future has started. How do you see yourself and what’s the end result? Today, start taking steps toward reaching positive goals of success, health and happiness.

Many high school graduates might be unsure of which direction to turn, and my best advice is to start internally. I promise if you begin with a healthy lifestyle, meet friendly people, then an opportunity will cross your path.

It is time to stop having fried foods and excessive sugars. You should start a new exercise program to help them see their life transforming. Your mind will think clearer, your body will fill with energy and your spirit will soar.

The adult path will have many challenges, but those experiences are important. You will get knocked down, blindsided and sucker punched, but get back up because those temporary setbacks will guide you to success.

I am almost 56 years old, and my tragedies help me become a better person, father and friend. Some situations hurt,  but it help me learn to love all mankind and myself.

Don’t ever give up on your story because what you strive to be is what you become. You have a purpose in life, and it is right outside the door waiting for you. Take a deep breath and say to yourself, ‘Alright world, look out because here I come.’

If you change yourself, then you’ll change the world.