Tag Archives: relationships

All or nothing

By David Tepera, May 31, 2017

The definition of “all or nothing” is having no middle position or compromise. You’re either in or out. Remember, we are all born with a fight-or-flight mechanism. It’s in all of us. I promise you’ll use it in a panicking situation.

Think about it. All or nothing can be used in every aspect of our lives.

Of course, for all you athletes, you must take on the mentality of giving your best, not only in games, but practice as well. Practicing all or nothing will develop into habits, which will be obvious during game time.

Russell Westbrook, point guard for Oklahoma Thunder basketball team, is a great example. This guy only knows one speed, and that’s full throttle. He is one of the most compelling players in the NBA.

How many of you are married or in a monogamous relationship? Do you treat your spouse with respect when you’re out in the world? Do you present yourself as someone who is in a strong loving relationship, or still playing the field?

How would you feel if your spouse was acting the way you are? Is this good or bad? Be honest.

Today is the day you’ll come home and tell your spouse how much you appreciate them. Hold them close and tight, so they feel your warmth and sincerity.

What about at work? Do you come late and leave early? Are you the employee that tries to do as little as possible, or someone whom everyone can count on to get the job done?

Believe me, people know if you’re a slacker or not, and if you are replaceable.

It’s summer weather and are you still being lazy and eating junk food or taking on the lifestyle of health and fitness?

When it comes to health, you must stay on a steady pace. Fad diets will only depress and destroy you mentally because it’s a temporary fix.

Come on now, it’s time to stop being mediocre or half-in. Whatever your situation is, take the mentality of all-in. Give all tasks determination and relationships respect.

Not just show everyone your best, but do it for you. I promise your life will go in a positive direction and unnecessary stress will delete itself.

So now, what’s your character? Are you all or nothing?

Make others feel good and you’ll feel good, too

By DAVID TEPERA | Posted: Wednesday, January 21, 2015

In my past articles, I’ve mentioned how relationships between companions will grow through fitness.

What is your relationship with yourself? Are you hard on yourself for the features your parents gave you? I hope you realize we all have distinct individual looks and that’s one of the coolest parts about the human race.

Really, the only part of your body you can control is fat and muscle percentage. We all know the importance of fitness and eating habits. And, this comes down to discipline and self control.

How about your personality, love for all people and kindness?

I once asked my kids, “Are you the kid you would want?” This question made an impact on them.

So, how about you? Are you someone that you would want to date, be in a relationship with or marry? Be the person you want to spend the rest of your life with because you will. Accept who you are and work on developing and enhancing all that is good and positive. We have one life. This is no dress rehearsal. Be nice and take care of yourself. Walk out into the world with a smile and greet everyone with big Texas “Hello.”

I once was running errands around town, and decided to make a kind comment to everyone I encountered. I would find something about them and tell them kind words. Like, “Your hair looks good today,” “I like that shirt, hat, shoes” or some article of clothing. Or, “You have a great smile.”

Make people feel good about themselves, and you’ll feel good about you.

Remember, a bad day is only because you make it so. Make each day better than the day before. It easily starts with a big teeth-showing smile to share with the world.

Help strengthen relationships through fitness

By DAVID TEPERA | Posted: Wednesday, November 26, 2014

Have your kids grown up and are out of the house? Do you look at your spouse and ask “Who are you?” For the last 18 plus years, your lives were focused around raising your kids. And now, there is a major void in your lives. The most important thing you had in common is gone.

This is actually an exciting time in your mature lives — you get to date again. Now, it’s time to rekindle and strengthen the love you once had for each other.

My personal thought: there’s no better way to fall in love again than through fitness. 

I’ve interviewed multiple couples in my local gym, ranging from mid 20s to almost 90 years old. Almost all of them warm up together on a variety of cardio machines, lift weights together, join a cardio class or do their own thing to end up back together before they leave the gym. Not only are you improving your health, but improving your relationships at the same time. 

You don’t always need a gym. You can take walks, bike rides and perform various core exercises together at home. Why not try something completely different and go ice or roller skating? You should get a huge laugh out of it, and who cares if you’re the oldest people there?

It gets even better. Now, you can grocery shop together to choose best diet and healthy foods. At home, share the kitchen and learn to cook heathy in a variety of ways.

The kitchen is a great place to flirt. Preparing food, cooking, setting tables, and cleaning up can be a sexy romantic environment. It’s your private time, so why not grab here, pinch there and wear loose comfy clothes, if you know what I mean? By the way, I don’t recommend olive oil for anything but cooking.

Always make sure to give daily compliments and encouragement.  Hearing a compliment from the person you love is most special. 

Put a smile on each other’s face, and enjoy being teenagers again, with a mature twist.