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It’s the small habits that will change your life

By David Tepera, December 30, 2020

More than 15 years ago, life wasn’t heading in the direction I was hoping for. My mind became my worst enemy. All I could think about was, “Why are bad things happening to me, why are negative people in my life and why do I find the worst in every situation?”

I knew the only way to find peace and happiness would begin with me. I started reading three positive books a week, listened to uplifting CDs in my car and made constant prayers throughout my days.

My thought was if I filled my mind with only positive thoughts, there wouldn’t be any room for negativity. Guess what? It worked beyond my wildest dreams.

If you’re needing change in your life, start with the small habits. What’s your first thought when you wake? Are you thinking about all the negative people and situations you’ve encountered, or are you giving thanks and praise knowing you have another day to be a better person?

How do you spend your mornings? Are you dreading another day at the grind or are you excited that you have a job with a source of income to provide for your family? Which family member is getting the first hugs and smiles from you?

As your day continues, what are you allowing to enter your mind? With the social media craze, which stories and videos are you watching? Are you a laptop bully or a person of kind words, encouragement and support? Really, you probably need to step away from social media for a period of time.

Who do you allow to enter your life? Just know, the people you surround yourself with are a personal choice. If your friends have bad habits, no ambition and constantly putting others down, you are that person, too. Get out of that cesspool and go swim in bluer waters. You are who your friends are.

We are routine people. It’s the only way we can feel organized, but we know our organization skills need improving. Don’t only focus on big changes because you’re probably setting yourself up for failure. But, start with small habits and you’ll find a way to change your life and make 2021 the best year ever.